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Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert


(By Dr. Hitesh Shah – Innovator of Integrated Sexology, Classical Homeopath, Stress Management Expert, Pre-marriage Counsellor, and Personal Counsellor. Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert

Introduction: “Mujhe Tension Mat Do!”

Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert

How often have we heard or said this phrase—“Mujhe tension mat do!” (Don’t give me stress!)? Stress has become such a regular part of life that it feels like an uninvited guest who refuses to leave!

You wake up in the morning already stressed about being late. Then, the boss is after you for deadlines, the EMI reminders won’t stop, and your spouse is waiting with a list of unfinished household tasks. Before you know it, the day ends, but stress doesn’t! It follows you like a shadow.

But wait—what exactly is stress management? Why does stress make us feel anxious, tired, and frustrated? And more importantly, can we do something about it? The good news is YES! Let’s dive in and demystify stress with humor, practical examples, and integrated stress solutions by Dr. Hitesh Shah, one of the leading sexologists in Mumbai and a stress management expert.


Understanding Stress: It’s Not Just “Feeling Tensed”. (Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert)

Stress is not a disease, but it can surely lead to one if not managed properly. Scientifically, stress is the body’s response to a demand or challenge. It triggers a “fight or flight” response, releasing stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.

  • In the short term, stress helps us react quickly—like jumping away from a speeding bike on the road.
  • In the long run, chronic stress (the one that stays too long) can create havoc on our physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Example 1: The “Chai-Spilled” Morning

Imagine this: You wake up late, rush to make tea, and accidentally spill it on your clothes. Your stress levels spike. You change quickly, get stuck in traffic, and reach the office only to find your boss waiting with a frown. Now your stress multiplies, affecting your focus and mood for the whole day.

Sounds familiar? Stress management is crucial because stress builds up in layers. If one stressful event is not handled well, it keeps accumulating.


Types of Stress: The Three Ugly Cousins. (Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert)

  1. Acute Stress – The short-term stress we feel in a tense situation (e.g., almost missing a train).
  2. Chronic Stress – Long-term stress caused by ongoing pressures (e.g., financial problems, toxic relationships).
  3. Episodic Acute Stress – People who always seem to be in a crisis mode (e.g., “Oh no, everything is going wrong again!”).

Example 2: The WhatsApp University Syndrome

Ramesh, a 45-year-old businessman, wakes up to a WhatsApp message:
“Eating salt in the morning can cause heart attacks!”
He panics, forwards it to 10 people, and skips salt entirely—until his doctor laughs and reassures him that it’s fake news.

Moral of the story? Unverified information adds unnecessary stress. Let’s not believe everything we read or hear.

For further insights into stress, check out this reliable source from the American Psychological Association: Understanding Stress.


Impact of Stress: The Domino Effect

1. Physical Health Issues

  • Headaches, acidity, high blood pressure, and even diabetes.
  • Weakened immunity (Ever noticed you fall sick after an extremely stressful week?).

2. Emotional and Mental Struggles

  • Anxiety, frustration, overthinking.
  • Mood swings, irritability, feeling helpless.

3. Relationship Conflicts

  • Snapping at your loved ones without reason.
  • Feeling disconnected even when together.

4. Work Performance Issues

  • Poor concentration, forgetfulness, and procrastination.

Read more on stress and its impact at Harvard Medical School: Stress and Health.


Example 3: The “Marriage Ka Stress” Scenario

Anita and Raj were happily married for 10 years. But after Raj got a new job with a demanding boss, he started bringing stress home. Anita, frustrated, felt unheard. They fought over small issues, until one day Raj realized—it wasn’t Anita, it was his stress affecting their relationship.

Lesson? Stress affects how we behave with others. Recognizing it is the first step to managing it.


Dr. Hitesh Shah’s Integrated & Multidisciplinary Solutions for Stress Management

With 34 years of clinical experience, I have developed a holistic approach that combines:

Homeopathy – Natural remedies to calm the mind and body.
Mindfulness & Meditation – Simple daily practices to reduce anxiety.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) – Changing negative thought patterns.
Sexual & Relationship Counselling – Stress-free intimacy & emotional bonding.
Lifestyle Management – Sleep, diet, and exercise, Yoga and Meditation for stress control.

Combatting Stress: Insights from an Expert is here to help you!

Explore more about stress treatment approaches on Mayo Clinic: Stress Relief Techniques.


Final Thoughts: It’s NOT Hopeless!

If stress were a monster, consider this: You hold the leash!

Identify stress triggers.
Use simple, practical techniques to manage stress.
Seek professional help when needed—don’t fight stress alone!

Life is too short to spend worrying. Let’s take charge, one deep breath and one smile at a time!


Need Help Managing Stress? Reach Out!

📞 Dr. Hitesh Shah
📍 301, Sanjar Enclave, S.V. Road, Kandivali West, Mumbai 400067
📱 Mobile: 9869035111
📧 Email: drhiteshshah@gmail.com

For expert stress management and counseling, consult Dr. Hitesh Shah, a renowned sexologist in Mumbai with a multidisciplinary approach to wellness.

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Erectile Dysfunction

Understanding Erectile Dysfunction: Causes, Emotional Impact, Solutions, and Prevention

Conflict between the man and the woman

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a prevalent condition that affects millions of men worldwide. It is characterized by the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance. While occasional difficulty with erections is common and usually not a cause for concern, frequent ED can cause significant emotional distress and impact relationships.

Common Causes

Erectile dysfunction can arise from a variety of physical and psychological factors:

  1. Physical Causes: These include cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, obesity, and metabolic syndrome. Conditions such as Parkinson’s disease, multiple sclerosis, and hormonal imbalances (like low testosterone) can also lead to ED. Additionally, lifestyle factors such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and substance abuse can contribute to the condition.
  2. Psychological Causes: Stress, anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions are significant contributors to ED. Performance anxiety, relationship issues, and psychological trauma related to sexual abuse or negative sexual experiences can also play a role.
  3. Medications and Treatments: Certain medications, including those used to treat high blood pressure, depression, and prostate conditions, can cause or exacerbate ED. Additionally, treatments for prostate cancer, including surgery and radiation, can impact erectile function.

Emotional Impact

The emotional toll of erectile dysfunction can be profound. Men with ED often experience a range of negative emotions, including embarrassment, guilt, shame, and a decrease in self-esteem. The inability to perform sexually can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration, further exacerbating stress and anxiety.

These emotional challenges can extend beyond the individual, affecting intimate relationships. Partners may feel confused, rejected, or undesired, leading to a breakdown in communication and emotional intimacy. This can create a vicious cycle, where the stress and tension within the relationship further contribute to the persistence of ED.

Solutions and Treatments for Erectile Dysfunction

Fortunately, a variety of effective treatments are available for erectile dysfunction:

  1. Lifestyle Changes: Adopting a healthier lifestyle can significantly improve erectile function. This includes regular physical exercise, maintaining a balanced diet, quitting smoking, reducing alcohol consumption, and managing stress.
  2. Medications: Oral medications such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis), and vardenafil (Levitra) are commonly prescribed and are effective for many men. These drugs enhance the effects of nitric oxide, a natural chemical the body produces that relaxes penile muscles and increases blood flow.
  3. Therapy: Psychological counseling and therapy can be beneficial, especially when ED is caused by psychological factors. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and sex therapy can help address underlying issues such as anxiety, depression, and relationship problems.
  4. Medical Treatments: In cases where medications are ineffective, other treatments such as vacuum erection devices, penile injections, or surgical implants may be considered.
  5. Dr. Hitesh Shah, best sexologist in Mumbai and Online, helps with his novel and unique “Integrated Sexology” approach comprehensively and holistically. Call 9819035111 for appointment

Prevention of Erectile Dysfunction

Preventing erectile dysfunction involves addressing the risk factors associated with the condition:

  1. Regular Exercise: Engaging in regular physical activity improves cardiovascular health, which is crucial for maintaining erectile function.
  2. Healthy Diet: Eating a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can help prevent conditions that lead to ED.
  3. Stress Management: Techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, and yoga can reduce stress and improve overall mental health.
  4. Regular Health Check-ups: Routine medical check-ups can help detect and manage health conditions that could lead to ED.

In conclusion, erectile dysfunction is a common but treatable condition with various causes and significant emotional and relational impacts. By understanding the underlying factors, seeking appropriate treatment, and adopting preventive measures, men can manage ED effectively and maintain a fulfilling sexual and emotional life.

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Sexual Intimacy in Covid times!

INTIMACY IN COVID TIMES!

-Dr. Hitesh Shah

Role of sexologist in helping couples / individuals overcome problems of their sex life and intimacy!

Covid 19, truly anti – love virus!

Is Covid taking toll on couples intimacy and sex life? Are sex and intimacy issues on rise during corona times?

Are couples thronging at counsellor’s / sexologists’ offices to seek help for their intimacy and sex life issues?

Is social distancing leading to more heart to heart disconnect?

Covid situation is becoming a kind of, way of life, for at least some more time to come.

‘Once upon a time’, before ongoing COVID era, the daunting and disturbing factor affecting most  couple’s love life was lack of quality time with one another.

While we empathize ourselves for experiencing all the evils of Corona, it is blessings in disguise that entire families has started spending more quality time together! ‘Work from home’ (WFH), has become the new normal, for many of us!

This article is being written in August 2021, just after the many states recovering from the second covid wave in India.

We don’t know what’s worse to come! And, hope-fully with fairly good level of herd immunity developing due to the natural exposure as well as the vaccination drive, the worse is over!

Meanwhile let’s make some observations on last more than one year’s covid situation’s effect on people’s love and sex life!

The Upside in Intimacy

  • More quality time, with each other and for each other. Family that plays together, stays together!
  • Sharing and caring for each other while knowing more about each other and knowing more about demands on each other in one’s work life.
  • Increased opportunity for leisure for more romance, spontaneity, and foreplay.
  • Frequent privileges of lovemaking and sharing of joy.
  • Lot of togetherness and fun activities, hobbies, online web series or even sharing of day-to-day household chores!

The Flipside to personal lives!

  • Too much of familiarity. And, they say familiarity breeds contempt!
  • Monotony.
  • Boredom.
  • Differences or lack of fulfillment of expectations in household responsibilities, creates arguments, differences, hurt feelings or ego hurt. This spills over on the intimacy moments.
  • A lot of expectations from self and partner leads to a very high-performance pressure, especially on men.
  • Many taking too much of performance boosting OTC drugs (sildenafil, tadalafil) to meet with partner’s higher demand. Previously, lack of adequate quality time together, use to camouflage these relative sexual inadequacies of relatively less sexual passion or periodic performance issues. But now there is no escape! No wonder, lot of men fall prey to these performance booster drugs. And subsequently they become psychologically and physiologically dependent!
  • When one of the partners has to overwork because of extra work and long working hours. Lot of people feel more burdened because of downsizing in their company and overworking for more than 12 hours. This obviously leads to lowered desire or performance.
  • Many people are facing job cut or salary cut or expenses due to covid in family member which necessitated hospitalization. Such financial worries and job insecurities immediately affects one’s love life.

The lifestyle during Covid times and Intimacy

Interestingly those who adopted healthy lifestyle with ‘early to bed, early to rise’ principle integrated with exercise and healthy – nutritious food have turned out to be winner, not just to boost their immunity but also to boost their libido, performance, love life and total intimacy.

As against this, those who were into sedentary habits and apart from obligatory works from home hours those who resorted to tv or late-night web serials or movies and social media surfing, have ended up with increase in weight, mood swings, irritability, discord with partner and also lowered libido and performance ability.

Shockingly, the news of Bill Gates and Melinda filling for mutually consented divorce, during this corona situation, has shaken the whole world. Although, there is no direct correlation.

Lot of couples are contemplating on the stagnancy or the problems in their relationship and marriage. And, there are increasing number of couple approaching for monotony as well as marital discord.

Sex life – post corona infection

Post any acute illness, sexual urge and performance is known to decline for certain period.

This is due to onslaught of illness itself, general weakness, heavy antipyretics and antibiotics or antiviral. Illnesses, In addition, corona carries its own psychological impact due to fear and isolation. All these together, derails the rhythm of a couple’s intimacy.

In addition, we as clinical sexologists are getting lot of patients now a days, complaining of low sexual desire even after few months of having had corona infection and many men are not able to get normal erection. (Erectile dysfunction.) Women also tend to have low sexual desire with post covid fatigue! Although, any direct or indirect pathophysiological correlation has not been established so far between covid infection and sexual dysfunctions. Lot of Homeopathic remedies are showing fantastic impact in recovery of such post covid sexual incapability.

Sex life for recently married couple

Unconsummated marriages due to various reason has been common even before covid. In current scenario, lot of marriages have taken place in hurry, stress, fear, insecurity, and lot of disappointments while curtailing various celebrations and guest lists. Couple are not feeling at ease. Going to even domestic honeymoon destinations have become a big project and problem. Situationally, lot of couple especially when one of the partners had to fly back abroad, faces long distance relationship and agony and misery of distancing, in addition to corona related social distancing.

Even they cannot go out for a stroll or a movie or visit a mall for shopping or wonder around at beach side. Staying home with family especially during honeymoon days or soon after that makes them feel boredom and ennui.

Desperate and frantic calls and visits to sexologist by the newly wed couples’ who are anxious and nervous due to their inability have a smooth start of sex life and intimacy is getting commoner.

Precautions

Harvard heath article on Intimacy, sex and COVID 19 gives elaborate guidelines of CDC for couples

Suggestions

  1. Give space to each other.
  2. Maintain healthy lifestyle.
  3. Build and maintain strong immunity.
  4. Have intimacy with spontaneity and experimentation, instead of daily ‘habit’.
  5. Be creative and innovative in romance and sexuality.
  6. Avoid news especially after evening.
  7. Avoid gadgets after 9 pm
  8. Have plenty of fruits, especially water melon (the natural Viagra), grapes, berries, pomegranate and all seasonal fruits. Have black dates and figs (anjeer).
  9. Keep a check on weight.
  10. If any reduction in libido or performance, seek sexologist help immediately.
  11. Time to give a maintenance to relationship issues in a sporty spirit.
  12. Regular walk and body weight exercises.
  13. Early consultation with expert if any decline observed in desire, performance or overall intimacy levels. Any marital discord or disharmony is also an opportunity to work upon the disruptive relationship patterns, long ignored.

The Best Solution

Homeopathy therapeutic science has many effective remedies for post febrile weaknesses of body, mind and sexual health. An integrated approach of Homeopathy with healthy lifestyle and counselling is helping number of patients who seek help.

For any querry feel free to contact us:

Dr. Hitesh Shah

Sexologist in Mumbai and Sexologist Online

9869035111

www.sexologist.info

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